I'm someone who puts a "warming" area and then puts things like "het" and "overly schmoopy" so I don't take that label very seriously. I appreciate that folks have concerns over that label, but to me it's just a way to divide up my notes instead of having one long note area.

And as I said to Azz, I often start out "this isn't my normal kink..." because I see it as a way of complimenting the author. Never have I used it to disclaim or shame...I want the author to know that hey I like you enough and trust you enough that I went out of my boundaries for once and I really enjoyed what you wrote. I think I've started comments to you before in your kink fics this same way! And when I get folks saying similar things in my fic, I guess I always just assume they meant it as a compliment. But then again, I tend to have rose-colored glasses.

Now, I'd never ever use the word "gross" or "disgusting" or similar words in feedback, ever. That's totally rude and weird and I have no clue why anyone would consider that a good way to convey their feelings to an author.