I definitely think a lot of the commenting is an attempt to distance a person from a kink they are surprised to find they really do like.

I have no problem if people want to warn for more things, but I have just gotten to the point where warning for something like a lighthearted watersports fic where everything is schmoopy and happy seems ridiculous. I'll still list watersports but not in the same place I would list noncon.

I do like to see the kinks listed in a PWP style fic though, because then I know what's in there and I can scramble like a madwoman to click on "exhibitionism." ;)

I'm not about to let myself feel ashamed of them, whatever anyone else says.

Amen! This is something that fandom is teaching me. :D