I use 'Warning' more as a way to flag down all my content tags rather than a 'Beware, for these sins lie within' type of thing.
I can see what you mean when you say it comes across as labeling things as shameful, but I just think of it as a convenient way to show content in a quick manner (it's also a great tool for those rude responders when you point it out and say, "If you can't be bothered to read the header for the story, I can't be bothered to give a hoot when you don't like it.")
I tend not to give warnings at all unless the story has a high rating or if I feel like I should point out specific content. (I never consider slash a warning, and the only time I label it is as a tag for story finding, or if I'm posting in a comm that has both het and slash stories.)
I also appreciate knowing what I'm about to read, be it labeled under Warning or Content or whatever, because while I'm all for kinks like tentacles, felching, and fisting, I really have no interest in anything poly, no matter if it's rated G or NC-17.
As for labeling something as a trigger, the only things I consider using the term 'Trigger' for is a situation that would actually cause a person real discomfort (not just squick, but real trauma) like rape and graphic violence that could effect a person with traumatic stress.
As for rude douches that feel the need to put people down, if I don't like a story, well, it's my own fault for clicking on the link (unless it was improperly labeled) and I simply press the 'back' button and go on my merry way.
I do sometimes feel nervous when posting my higher-rated stories, simply because a lot of my kinks aren't as common as what's really popular. I like consensual tentacles, semi-human characters and things like felching, but I don't like bondage, poly or dub/non-con (which are all popular in kink memes) so I'm often half afraid some jerk will drop a line. Luckily, I've had no problems yet and those who have commented seemed to like it all just fine, which I am very happy to hear!
Sorry for the long-winded reply! I really like reading your kink posts because so few people are so open about discussing these things. :D
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I can see what you mean when you say it comes across as labeling things as shameful, but I just think of it as a convenient way to show content in a quick manner (it's also a great tool for those rude responders when you point it out and say, "If you can't be bothered to read the header for the story, I can't be bothered to give a hoot when you don't like it.")
I tend not to give warnings at all unless the story has a high rating or if I feel like I should point out specific content. (I never consider slash a warning, and the only time I label it is as a tag for story finding, or if I'm posting in a comm that has both het and slash stories.)
I also appreciate knowing what I'm about to read, be it labeled under Warning or Content or whatever, because while I'm all for kinks like tentacles, felching, and fisting, I really have no interest in anything poly, no matter if it's rated G or NC-17.
As for labeling something as a trigger, the only things I consider using the term 'Trigger' for is a situation that would actually cause a person real discomfort (not just squick, but real trauma) like rape and graphic violence that could effect a person with traumatic stress.
As for rude douches that feel the need to put people down, if I don't like a story, well, it's my own fault for clicking on the link (unless it was improperly labeled) and I simply press the 'back' button and go on my merry way.
I do sometimes feel nervous when posting my higher-rated stories, simply because a lot of my kinks aren't as common as what's really popular. I like consensual tentacles, semi-human characters and things like felching, but I don't like bondage, poly or dub/non-con (which are all popular in kink memes) so I'm often half afraid some jerk will drop a line. Luckily, I've had no problems yet and those who have commented seemed to like it all just fine, which I am very happy to hear!
Sorry for the long-winded reply! I really like reading your kink posts because so few people are so open about discussing these things. :D